Christmas is often painted as the most wonderful time of the year, but if you’re dealing with toxic relationships or navigating someone with narcissistic traits, it can feel anything but. The pressure of family gatherings, social expectations, and the constant need to appear “merry” can leave you feeling drained, anxious, and on edge.
The truth is, you don’t have to carry that weight. You deserve to protect your peace this Christmas. Here are some simple ways to look after yourself:
- Set Boundaries – You decide how much time, if any, you want to spend with people who bring you down. Saying “No” is absolutely okay. You don’t owe anyone an explanation.
- Limit Your Time at Gatherings – If you feel obligated to show up, that doesn’t mean you have to stay for hours. Set a time limit that feels comfortable and stick to it. It’s perfectly fine to leave when you’re ready.
- Have an Exit Plan – If you feel overwhelmed, have a plan. Drive yourself so you can leave when you need to, make a polite excuse to leave early, or step outside for a breather if things get too much.
- Prioritise Self-Care – Take time to recharge. Whether it’s a quiet walk, reading a good book, or taking a nap in peace, put yourself first for once.
- Lean on Your Support System – Surround yourself with people who understand you, even if that’s a quick call to a friend who “gets it” or spending time with those who lift you up.
- Celebrate Your Own Way – Christmas doesn’t have to look like anyone else’s. Enjoy a hot chocolate in front of the fire, stick Home Alone on the TV, or unwind with a long soak in the bath. Do what makes you happy.
We know how tough this time of year can be when you’re recovering from narcissistic abuse. Remember: you are allowed to prioritise yourself, and your peace is worth protecting.
